The Struggle is Real: Dating at an HBCU
posted by Brianna Hooper | April 2, 2024 | In OpinionDating can be difficult for anybody, and that can go for anyone from your teenage years to adulthood. But dating can be particularly difficult in college.
As a college student, this is a time where you form your own identity of who you want to be and just what career path you want to take later in life. You meet new people, and you experience new things that can affect you as a person as well.
In my experience, I have found it difficult to date. I had a hard time finding who I was internally. I would always envy how other girls looked, how they dressed, and how they carried themselves. For a good while, I copied them, and it made me feel good at the time, but I didn’t feel like it was really me. It felt as if I was wearing a costume.
I feel as if sometimes, especially in the Black community, we have to act a certain way or dress in a certain way in order for others to gravitate or form a relationship with us. The newest media, whether it be music, movies, tv shows, or something else tells us that we have to dress this way or act this way to change the way someone thinks.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with having an expectation of what you want in a relationship or having certain expectations when it comes to what you would want out of a partner. But the problem then comes when those expectations cannot be met, and you end up becoming something that you’re not in order to please others.
Photo Courtesy of Dorian Wallender.
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