Oh Honey: Dealing With Immaturity
posted by Kayla Mady | April 8, 2024 | In OpinionI refuse, and I’ll repeat, I refuse to handle having a partner who constantly shows their brain hasn’t fully developed.
Okay, okay. I get it. That was harsh. But seriously, who likes to feel like someone’s caretaker?
You can have parental issues, babe. I am not saying you can’t, but I am not your mother, father, or any sort of legal guardian.
I can be there for you emotionally if you need me, and I can give you some pros/cons or advice. However, if you have to come to me to decide if you need water, food, or common sense, I will give you directions to the nearest door and possibly a therapist.
I think we, as women, have forgotten that we aren’t the answer or cure to everything (I mean… we are though.) However, we have our own minds and abilities, and here is someone who wants to be a part of your life (more like impose) and have you make all the decisions.
“Uh… I don’t know. What do you think? What do you want? Do I want this? Should I do this?”
Can you not speak for yourself at your adult age?! If you want to be treated like an adult and have people take you seriously, ACT LIKE IT. A relationship/situtationship is not ‘At Home pt.2.’ I am not about to give you a curfew, house rules, or a monthly budget. You should’ve been working on that when we weren’t even talking.
This argument goes both ways. I may be telling you, “HEY! You don’t have to deal with it!” But if you also think your issues are keeping you from maturing or reaching a stable responsibility where you don’t have to depend on others for your thoughts, take a step back.
Let go of the excitement for a little while. Yes, the attention feels good. However, you don’t want to give anyone free reign over your thoughts or physical person. Dating or even developing any bond requires a lot of openness and vulnerability.
If you, your partner, or anyone you are trying to bond with cannot function without the direction of another person, stop for a moment. From there, you really need to think about your actions or theirs. You need to decide if the amount of dependency is healthy and if the weight you help them carry is appropriate for your well-being.
I know, I know. “Kayla, Stop perceiving me. PLEASE.” I am sorry, but I had to tell you. TLC once said, “I don’t want no scrub.” So technically, they perceived you first.
You don’t want a scrub, and you don’t want to be one. I’ve seen all of you around campus; you are all too beautiful to be dealing with immaturity or delivering it. Do better for yourself.
Graphic by Kayla Mady
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