Opinion: The Non-Approachable Friend
posted by Shakenna Moore | September 26, 2023 | In News, OpinionRalph Waldo Emerson said, “The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship.”
There should never be a time where a friend is non-approachable. This is a subjective conclusion that should be delved into deeper, and it starts with oneself.
You must look to yourself and explore the reasons why you feel this way. You might lack the self-confidence to approach, or the ability to handle whatever comes after the approach. Is it that your lack self-esteem or that anxiety kicks in, so you self-sabotage by giving the excuse that your friend isn’t approachable?
When someone trusts you enough to call you friend, the lines of communication should always be open. Even if their face doesn’t wear a smile and the body language is giving the message to get away, you should proceed, but do it cautiously. Your ability to empathize with others should kick in. Understand that your friend may be having a bad day or has things going on, so they may not look like you think they should.
Trust goes both ways, and there is a chance that you don’t trust your friend enough to push past your fears and anxiety, enough to approach. By some chance that the person really is non- approachable, your patience and understanding, along with your ability to be supportive is vital during this process.
True friends are hard to find. Friendships require patience and acceptance of all differences and a willingness to help motivate each other through good times and bad. Let’s remember that not everybody has a friendly and inviting appearance. Let’s embrace all that makes us unique!
Photo Courtesy of Cristiano Betta.
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